“Don’t Go Cryin’ To Your Mama, Cuz You’re On Your Own In The Real World”: My Advice To The Youth & Slightly Aging

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ImageToday’s Mood Ingredients: Frustrated, Mentor-y, OverUnderqualified.

So, it’s been quite a while since I’ve written a post & that’s mostly due to the fact that life caught up to me & I was too busy making a list of observations to actually have a chance to sit down & write about ’em.

Jobs. We all either have them, need them, or are retired from them. We either love them, hate them, or are apathetic towards them. For some, they’re a means to an end; for some, they’re the only consistent things in life; for some, they’re the greatest love affairs; and for some, they’re the bane of their existence. So, what’s my input? They suck. Unless of course, you’ve known what you want to do your whole life & were afforded the opportunities to strive for success in your chosen field from a very young age. Below, you’ll find my unsolicited, but in my humility-laden opinion, spectacular and priceless, advice to the classes of whatever year you did/will graduate, be they from elementary, junior high, high school, college, grad school, or some other institution. Read & heed, my friends!

DO WHAT YOU WANT. That’s all. Simple. If you have an inkling of what you want to do your whole life at whatever age you are, GO FOR IT. Don’t allow doubts, fears, or pesky little things like crippling anxiety overshadow your passion and desire for a specific route for your life. Live for yourself. It’s always nice to be selfless, but sometimes, you need to be selfish. I found out the hard way. I drastically changed my career path at the ripe young age of 30. I dropped out of medical school, I launched my own fashion line, and I continued to look for odd jobs to support my business. IT SUCKED. I wish I had gone to FIT or Parson’s right out of high school. I wish I had interned for Valentino or Marchesa or Rodarte. I wish I had apprenticed in Bombay with a designer I know. I wish I had done a lot of things, but I didn’t. I couldn’t. So, at the age of 33 with a graduate level education, a creatively obsessive background, and a small business, I worked (until a week ago) at a daycare center. I wiped other people’s children’s poop and noses (not with the same wipe, don’t worry), I cut up hot dogs for toddler lunches, I woke up at the crack of dawn (NOT ideal for an insomniac/nocturnal creature), I stood for 8 hours a day, and I dealt with the worst boss known to mankind. Lucky for me, I adore children and teaching both, so I made the best of what it was. A measly job with minor pay, but it allowed me to go to LA and go to Bombay and teach dance classes 3 days a week. It allowed me time to design & sketch at home, it allowed me time to spend QT with my nephew, and it allowed me time to go back to seriously building my business.

Unfortunately, I was forced to quit last week because that aforementioned “Horrible Boss” (without an ounce of the attractiveness of Jennifer Aniston), did not allow me a day off to attend a family funeral. Bitches be trippin’, yo, and karma isn’t always kind. Anyhow, so now here I am, back on the job hunt while working 20 hours a day on this and what do I find? I’m too overqualified for jobs like a cashier at Target or a counter person at a bakery, but too underqualified for the jobs relevant to my field. Do I have 2-4 years of retail experience if I want to apply as a Fashion Assistant at DKNY? No. I was at a science research program at Marymount. Do I have 1-2 years of previous mailroom experience in order to apply for a MAIL SORTER position at Armani? Nah. I was in medical school in Antigua.

I’m noticing that there are more and more people out there experiencing this kind of rock and a hard place situation when it comes to gainful employment (especially after a career shift), no matter what area it’s in. There are articles upon articles out there about what “experience” really even means in the social media obsessed, Vine celebrity, hired-from-Twitter-feed-to-become-a-TV-writer world (hello, Harvard Business Review!?!), but nothing actually being done about the seemingly ubiquitous situation. So my point of this rant is, until there is some evolution with today’s times, take my advice: START YOUNG. Yes, everyone will tell you it’s never too late. I mean, for the sake of full disclosure of my hypocrisy, one of my favorite quotes is “It’s never too late to be what you might have been” by George Eliot. HOWEVER, if you want to be who you might have been with a little more ease and comfort and a slightly quicker success rate, be who you might have been…..NOW.

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Today’s Interlude: “Everybody’s Free To Wear Sunscreen” by Baz Luhrmann

 

OSCAR SUNDAY! The 1 Day Of 365 Where Oscar Isn’t A Grouch

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Today’s Mood Ingredients: Curious, Excited, Glitzy, Glamorous.

This post will have more semi-articulate text later tonight, but for now, & throughout the evening, enjoy the fabulous fashion, obstinate opinions, and wonderful winners here! (all photo credit to the photographers at Getty Images)

I was fortunate enough to be able to attend the Oscars red carpet & afterparties in 2009 when Slumdog Millionaire took home plenty of gold & in 2011 when 127 Hours was a nominee. Considering that I’ve been an avid & obsessive Oscar watcher since I was 7, many of my dreams came true that weekend & I pretty much owe my dad more than I already had at the point! My love for awards season, inclusive of fashion, talent, glitz, & glamour has never waned, & the post below makes that glaringly obvious. Don’t worry if you couldn’t sit through the 3.5 hour show, I did it for you. 😉

My Best Dressed: (as always, I wish there was more, or any Marchesa!)

Portia de Rossi in Naeem Khan

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Her figure definitely does this gown justice & the intricate patterns make the fact that it’s not an actual color worth it.

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Viola Davis in Escada

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The emerald Escada sets of Viola’s skin tone absolutely beautifully. Could do without those tan lines though!

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Kristin Chenoweth in Cavalli

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Every year, someone dresses like Oscar himself, but you can’t help but love Kristin Chenoweth in her gilded Cavalli!

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Olivia Wilde in Valentino

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Gorgeous mom-to-be in a classic B&W Valentino could not have done it any better.

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Lupita Nyong’o in Prada

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NO WORDS for incredible Lupita Nyong’o in custom silver threaded powder blue Prada. “I picked the blue because it reminded me of Nairobi & I wanted some of home with me. I’m wearing a froggie ring as well, which is my family totem.” Looking like a spectacular & statuesque Cinderella in powder blue pleats & sparkling tiara-esque 18 karat yellow gold & diamond Fred Leighton headband.

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Chrissy Teigen in Monique Lhuillier

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Forever hilarious Sports Illustrated cover girl/John Legend’s wife/prolific tweeter Chrissy Teigen combines fashion & functionality (like Clic By Siddhi!) in a strapless floral Monique Lhuillier gown with what I always call iPhone pockets, because let’s face it, that’s what they are!

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Sally Hawkins in Valentino

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The Blue Jasmine actress looks like a modern Victorian in her bone & gold Valentino. I’m so glad she isn’t blonde; the brunette makes her face pop against the neutrals.

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Jared Leto in Saint Laurent

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Love of my life Jordan Catalano struts on the red carpet in a black & white Saint Laurent tux with the perfect oxblood bow tie. I miss his man bun & his chiseled jaw though. Angela Chase forever.

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Sarah Paulsson in Elie Saab

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Sarah looked less coven-like in this gorgeous piece by Elie Saab with simple & sleek hair and accessories. I always love long sleeves on gowns as they set you apart from the ubiquitous sleeveless/strapless numbers.

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Amy Adams in Gucci 

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Many-time nominee Amy Adams decided to style herself, for herself tonight with a navy columnar Gucci gown & hit the nail on the head. The coral colored earrings with her redhead are perfect complements.

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Jennifer Lawrence in Dior

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America’s sweetheart, 3 time nominee, 1 time winner, & Dior spokesmodel J.Law made her entrance by falling flat on her derriere on the red carpet, but handled it with humor & grace as usual. Even if her whole situation is like the Taylor Swift “surprise face,” I love it. The fire engine red was a surprisingly awesome color choice, not annoying me with the whole red on red carpet thing.

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Emma Watson in Vera Wang

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My little Hermione never does any fashion wrong. Flawless hair, flawless makeup, and a metallic charcoal & black Vera Wang gown are no match for her acting skills, but do a good job keeping up!

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Kevin Spacey in *pending*

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I have a soft spot for midnight blue tuxes with black lapels (specific, but true) & Frank Underwood did good!

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Julia Roberts in Givenchy

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Lace Givenchy (& peplum done right!) in a color, in my opinion, that sets off that lighter hair & trademark smile incredibly!

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Sandra Bullock in Alexander McQueen

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Stunner Sandra in a liquidy navy McQueen looking every bit the Best Actress queen herself! And for once, non-straight hair & effortlessly rocking the waves.

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Kate Hudson in Versace

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I’m not sure if Kate has ever looked so so so good. Her slinky white gown fit like a glove and couldn’t have flattered her anymore. The back draping was the icing on this non-wedding cake!

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Lady Gaga in Atelier Versace

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WOW. That’s all I can say for Lady Gaga on Oscar night. Incredible embroidered figure flattering Atelier Versace makes more of a statement than her usual over the top attire in the best way possible!

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Kelly Osbourne in Badgley Mischka

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Kelly chose a beautiful Badgley Mischka gown with a beaded capelet-style overlay for one of her many Oscars gowns, and made sure to stay dry in that oh-so-torrential LA rain.

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VANITY FAIR OSCARS AFTERPARTY:

Mindy Kaling in Salvador Perez

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Well, if you know me, you know I think Mindy can do no wrong like, ever. Her fashion obsession (amongst other things) makes her my kindred spirit & her costume designer on The Mindy Project & the president of the Costume Designers Guild, Salvador Perez dresses her impeccably on the show & in real life. This dazzling strapless black peplum is no exception.

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Taylor Swift in Julien MacDonald & Jaime King in Ulyana Sergeenko

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Taylor has hardly gotten her event fashion wrong & last night was no exception. Forever a fan of sparkles that she is, I’m glad she chose black over the usual metallics. I’ve been a fan of Jaime King since her CK modeling days back when she was James, & I love the fact that her fashion forward days are still in existence. She always toes the line & she did it well last night in a maroon gown cutout gown with periwinkle detailing, perfectly showcasing that post-baby figure.
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Selena Gomez in Emilio Pucci
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Selena is one of my favorite fashionistas (as those who know me will attest to), & at 21, she is emerging as a fashion favorite for just about everyone. She remained true to form as she usually sticks to a golden hue for these types of events, but I love the sheer peekaboo legs and Old Hollywood waves.
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Naomie Harris in Naeem Khan
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I had the good fortune of being able to attend Naeem Khan’s 2014 runway show during New York Fashion Week & had an idea that this gown may be making an appearance somewhere this awards season. The stark red & black combo looked stunning on Naomie.
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Zooey Deschanel in Oscar de la Renta
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Zooey is known for her quirky or olden days fashion choices, & I have been ogling this ODLR floral gown since it hit the runway. It’s the perfect fit to Zooey’s personality.
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Leslie Mann in Jenny Packham
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Cheerful tones for a cheerful pair! Leslie Mann in her lemon yellow Jenny Packham brightened up the black/neutral/metallic red carpet in a much needed way!
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Jennifer Lawrence in Tom Ford
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No falling this time around, J.Law stunned in a short Tom Ford dress with sheer side & back paneling and metallic cut work.
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Rashida Jones in Valentino
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I know this one won’t be everyone’s cup of tea, but this columnar patterned Valentino is one of my favorites! The simple hoops and dark bangs are the perfect accessories.
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Amy Adams in Carolina Herrera
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Amy is always one of the ones I look forward to, both film-wise & fashion-wise. She switched to another simple gown, this time a clean white one-shoulder Carolina Herrera, and obviously made everyone’s best dressed list, again.
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Kristen Bell in *pending*
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Still waiting on the designer for this one, but Kristen Bell looked gorgeous in a bright red low-cut Grecian style gown. I think motherhood added the glow more than the makeup did!
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Reese Witherspoon in Boss
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This is a look I’m not used to seeing on Reese, and I’m a fan of it! The split design skirt in black & metallic charcoal, and pop of turquoise in the earrings are a stark & stunning contrast to her blonde hair & blue eyes.
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10:53PM Currently, Gravity is cleaning up, Lupita took it home, & Ellen is about to have the most retweeted picture in history also known as the greatest selfie in history! Also, this is a very very long Oscars, but my loyalty is real!

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11:02PM: The In Memoriam segment was as gut wrenching as usual, but it’s wonderful to note that they muted the applause so it wasn’t a popularity contest for the departed. Bette Midler closed it out by singing her iconic “Wind Beneath My Wings” from Beaches & basically the whole world ugly cried like Oprah.

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11:19PM: Best Original Song went to Kristen Anderson-Lopez & Robert Lopez, making Robert the youngest EGOT winner ever! (Winner of an Emmy, Grammy, Oscar, & Tony Award)

11:41PM: Daniel Day-Lewis is the only thing that’s helping this long ass show situation right now.

11:50PM: Jennifer Lawrence was fighting with someone in the audience….while up on stage presenting an award. I’d love to know the background story on that a bit more. Following that, Matthew McConaughey is giving a church summer camp speech.

11:55PM: My mom started screaming at the TV after 40 minutes of silence. “YEAH, WILL! YOU GO! I LOVE HIM, HE’S SO FUNNY!” Thanks for the unexpected wake up call, Will Smith.

Sometimes, I wasn’t looking at the clock (a valiant effort), so here’s what else happened on some basic timeline. Pink sang the hell out of “Somewhere Over The Rainbow” for The Wizard of Oz’s 75th anniversary & Judy Garland’s children in attendance (Liza Minnelli with her blue streaked hair to match her peculiar blue silken jumpsuit, Lorna Luft, & Joey Luft) understandably cried. Ellen quickly brought that back to laughter in her Glinda the Good Witch getup, and though there were some hits & misses throughout the telecast, Ellen kept it light and funny and PG, which is pretty much what I look for in a host (if I needed an overabundance sex jokes, I’d watch pretty much anything else on TV right now).

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Ellen ordered pizza for the starving celebrities & Brad Pitt was serving paper plates, Kerry Washington got a gluten-free version, and basically the celebs perked up a bit after being fed. Also, Ellen collected money for the pizza from the likes of Harvey Weinstein, Brad Pitt, & Lupita Nyong’o threw in her lip balm as well (Clarins, for those interested)! John Travolta seemed to have sneakily imbibed somewhere at the notoriously dry event because his introduction of Idina Menzel left the rest of us blankly blinking at the TV for a bit.

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WINNERS (UPDATED):

Best Actor in a Supporting Role: Jared Leto, “Dallas Buyers Club”

My love since his Jordan Catalano, My So-Called Life days & a man with a 4 year prime spot in my locker with those crystal eyes, Jared Leto took time off from acting for 6 years to pursue his passion for music. A successful music career (with his band 30 Seconds To Mars) later, he returned to acting to take home all top accolades of the season for his character Rayon in Dallas Buyers Club, & his Oscars acceptance speech was a love letter to his mom and awareness for the current events in the world. I’m so happy for my future spouse! 😉

Best Costume Design: Catherine Martin, “The Great Gatsby”

Achievement in Makeup & Hairstyling: Adruitha Lee & Robin Mathews, “Dallas Buyers Club”

Best Animated Short: Laurent Witz & Alexandre Espigares, “Mr. Hublot”

Best Animated Feature Film: Chris Buck, Jennifer Lee, Peter Del Vecho, “Frozen”

Achievement in Visual Effects: Tim Webber, Chris Lawrence, Dave Shirk, Neil Corbould, “Gravity”

Best Live Action Short Film: Anders Walter, Kim Magnusson, “Helium”

Best Documentary Short Subject: Malcolm Clarke, Nicholas Reed, “The Lady In Number 6: Music Saved My Life”

Best Documentary Feature: Morgan Neville, Gil Friesen, Caitrin Rogers, 20 Feet From Stardom”

Best Foreign Language Film:The Great Beauty”, Italy

Achievement in Sound Mixing: Skip Lievsay, Niv Adiri, Christopher Benstead, Chris Munro, “Gravity”

Achievement in Sound Editing: Glenn Freemantle, “Gravity”

Best Actress in a Supporting Role: Lupita Nyong’o, “12 Years a Slave”

This young woman is one of the classiest, well spoken people I have ever seen. She has come through awards season as a winner & with a sincere & true message in her speeches at each event & at every talk show stop she’s made throughout. Fashion superstar, & now Academy Award winner..after having just graduated the Yale School of Drama in MAY. Stunning & spectacular; “No matter where you are from, your dreams are valid.”

Best Cinematography: Emmanuel Lubezki, “Gravity”

Best Film Editing: Alfonso Cuaron & Mark Sanger, “Gravity”

Achievement in Production Design: Catherine Martin (production design) & Beverley Dunn (set decoration), “The Great Gatsby”

Best Original Score: Steven Price, “Gravity”

Best Original Song: Kristen Anderson-Lopez, Robert Lopez, “Frozen”

Best Adapted Screenplay: John Ridley, “12 Years A Slave”

Best Original Screenplay: Spike Jonze, “Her”

Achievement in Direction: Alfonso Cuaron, “Gravity”

Best Actress in a Leading Role: Cate Blanchett, “Blue Jasmine”

Cate Blanchett was the lock for the award according to industry insiders, so this wasn’t quite a surprise. Though I love Sandra in everything & I really just want Amy Adams to win an Oscar AT SOME POINT, you can’t deny Cate’s talent. I’ll remain mum on the director choice though.

Best Actor in a Leading Role: Matthew McConaughey, “Dallas Buyers Club”

No surprise here either as Matthew McConaughey’s turn in Dallas Buyers Club has already been winning awards all season, and though I joked that his acceptance speech was reminiscent of a church summer camp sermon, I can’t deny that he really did move me with some of his words. “God has shown me that it is a scientific fact that gratitude reciprocates.”

Best Picture: “12 Years A Slave”

What a great end to a long evening! Truly thrilled for Steve McQueen & the entire cast and crew of 12 Years A Slave for a well deserved award. An important film for plenty of reasons, the talent clearly only being one of them.

Andddd GOOD NIGHT! 🙂

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FACTs: Fashion, Arts, Culture, Travel..with a li’l side of life.

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The rainbow unicorn was just to throw you off.  Anyway, just a heads up! I’ve decided to actually use my “FACTs” tagline and post accordingly! Here is my planned blog scheduling as of now. I’m going to try my level best to stick to it, but, you know..life and such.

And I’m open to topic suggestions, so please share if you’d like to hear me babble about something specific.

MondaySide of life: More like the posts you’ve been seeing so far.

TuesdayFashion: My take on designers, trends, Outfits of the Day/Night/Week/Life/Forever, etc.

WednesdayArts: It could be a review, it could be a suggestion, it could be sharing an event in any/all arts fields; performing, creative, etc. (STAY TUNED FOR OSCAR SUNDAY!)

ThursdayCulture: May have a focus on South Asian culture, but inclusive of any and all others.

FridayTravel: The wanderlusting gypsy in me will tell a tale of where I’ve been or where I want to go.

Hope to have you along for this weird mental process. 🙂

You can also follow me @Sidlum & my company @ClicBySiddhi on Twitter and Sidlum & ClicBySiddhi on Instagram.

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